Penny Arcade Publishes e-mail From Alleged Stepmother of Killer Teen

Penny Arcade Publishes e-mail From Alleged Stepmother of Killer Teen

February 23, 2007
On Monday, Penny Arcade's Gabe commented on a CNN story about three teens who beat a homeless man Rex Baum (left) to death. One of the youthful murderers equated the brutal killing to playing a violent video game. Said Gabe:
These kids were twelve kinds of nuts and that’s a fact. Their parents either made them nuts or weren’t paying attention while they went nuts on their own. I don’t know which scenario is worse.

Shortly thereafter, Gabe received a long and impassioned email from a woman identifying herself as one of the boys’ stepmother.
To say that living with this kid was hell would be a complete understatement… He was constantly in trouble in school, with the cops, with us, with his mother, and with anyone else who was an authority figure... We tried absolutely everything we could think of to get him to behave like a normal human being… 

The night that he and his friends murdered that poor homeless man... We had absolutely no idea of what he had done until they found the man’s body... We were all absolutely sick with grief for this man… We were also sick with guilt… “What could we have done differently?” was a constant question...

…I can’t stand hearing about the so-called correlation between games and real-life violence. Video games DID NOT make this kid who he was, and it’s unfortunate that the correlation is there…

Readers can view the email in its entirety here.

-Reporting from San Diego, GP Correspondent Andrew Eisen

Comments

"Thats not smart; smart people contribute to the betterment of society; a smart person would realize that they are doing something thats wrong and not beat a homeless man to death. Hes deceitful and cruel, and they are often confused. Don’t confuse cold manipulation with intelligence."

A fine line between genius and insanity. You can be the next Albert Einstein, but still make poor decisions with the "I do what I want to" mentality. Just because you make a bad decision, a terrible decision, or commit a crime does not make a person any less intelligent then a 'saint'.

You underestimate the criminal mind, which a dangerous thing to do.

As for the article. I believe it. There are some people who will just not learn, regardless of the parenting. I don't know if this kid was "born evil" or what, but I don't think bad parenting could be blamed entirely for that terror.
Depends on what bootcamp he's sent too. Some can break the soul of even the sociopath.
I'll only inject this into the discussion:

Anyone calling for him to be sent away to some boot camp or some "behavior modification" facility ought to know that he is GUARANTEED to come out nastier, less respectful of others (!!), and with even MORE hatred than he started with.
@Jonc2006
Have you seen the people in America lately? Its not hard to deceive people in our country. There are a lot of stupid fucking people here. Really gullible people. Its not that hard to do.
@austin lewis

by "smart" i ment they are extremely good at playing off peoples emotions and weaknesses and exploiting them to no extent. a person with a conscience would realize they are doing something wrong. yes he would have been "smart" to stop and realize what he was doing, but thats not the context i was using the word in. it takes a large amount of intelligence to manipulate and decive things and actually make them work without backfire, which is why these types of people are so dangerous. if they were not smart they would not be able to manipulate the way they do.
Thats not smart; smart people contribute to the betterment of society; a smart person would realize that they are doing something thats wrong and not beat a homeless man to death. Hes deceitful and cruel, and they are often confused. Don't confuse cold manipulation with intelligence.
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I really doubt that "beating the kid into shape" would ever really work, given that it seems as if the violence would have no effect on him. It really seems as if the best thing they could have done would have been to take him to a psychiatrist who has no previous connection to him and determine if he did suffer from Anti-Social Personality Disorder, or something similar. If he found that he did (which I feel is quite likely), they should have comitted him. I believe people can change, but it seems as if, based on our current understanding of medicine and psychology, this particular child was beyond help, and the best thing for him and society would be to make sure he is in a place where he can harm no one, including himself.
@austin lewis

actually they are very smart. they are able to manipulate and twist things for their own benifit and get away with it alot of the time. it takes an intelligent person to pull a front and fool people like a sociopathic person can. they may be dumb to commit crimes like these but as far as their intelligence goes, its pretty high up.
I do think a few people need to read up on the various disorders that fit the description. And i am kinda worried about the ideas many people have of just beating him into shape. I've yet to meet a particularly screwed up kid who didn't have these forms of dicipline practiced on them (sometimes as part of many different forms of behaviour therapy)

That said, it is a really difficult questions about what to do with these people. They often aren't 'curable' in the conventional sense. Some can be improved with behaviour therapy, in particular at a young age, but by no means all. We can kill them? Lock them up for life? Commit them? The law for one doesn't allow this, and it's sorta difficult to think of a wording that would allow for it. At least fairly that is, given how difficult it is to distinguish between a permanent personality disorder and a temporary behavioural issue.
@lightwarrior

the is NO way to discipline a sociopath. you can beat them, yell at them, anything you can think of will not work. they have no fear of the law or authority, so you cannot scare them into being good.
LightWarrior, i don't know if you noticed, but this kid wasn't smart; he was scheming and manipulative. He's a sociopath, so nothing you do to him except maybe violence would have an effect.
Ok I skimmed most of the comments here but I keep seeing "bea his ass...beat this..beat that."....and I know some of you read that full letter...child abuse was a big issue in her story.

There's gotta be a way to displine them without beating them.....and I dont think kicking them out of the house works eather.....if the child is smart...like this kid...they WILL report you....sadly that's probably why alot of kids grow up corrupt now....it seems "proper" displine is now illgeal.
I think Maddox (http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=beat) is right on this one, parents need to lay down some serious discipline on their kids. We went soft, so now they do messed up stuff because parents are too lax/lazy/not parenting.
i doubt a true sociopath would even care about a divorce going on. i hate to say it, but sociopaths are incredibly intelligent for what they do and how much success they get from doing it, they are able to manipulate anyone or anything around them for the shear feeling of having total control over something. being "god" is what they get off on. their minds revolve around power over life and death and how they believe they can control things for their own benifit without even once considering another persons well-being. the most disturbing thing is that they are intelligent for what they do and are extremely good at manipulation. not even the law scares these types of people, they have no emotions, so in turn, they have no fear. and with no fear, they feel invicible and "god" like, which is why they are so good at what they do.
I gotta say, I agree with whoever said we don't want this guy in the military. People like this are a danger to everyone around them.

And in my experience, there are some children who are born evil. From birth they delight in the pain of others. Its nothing to do with the fact that he wasn't loved, or any shit like that. When I was 10, my dad was dating someone 20. It didn't make me go out and beat a homeless man; hell I wasn't even mad. I told him "good for you dad, way to play the field". Some people are born with insanity and evil imbued into their mind and psyche, it has nothing to do with the nature or nurture.

I think that the real problem here is the way that the Police, School, etc. reacted. They're being trained these days to jump on the parent before jumping on the kid. Some kids are terrible kids. I knew a kid who this little bastard reminds me of. That kid would lie to achieve ends, and didn't care who he stepped on. Eventually he was caught stealing a car, and was put in a holding cell, where his parents refused to pay bail and asked he be put in a mental institute. The point of this is, people like this won't ever change. They can't be integrated into a society.
parents of kids like that cant do anything really besides making an attempt to have them institutionalzed. again, sociopaths are incapable of seeing the feelings of others. they have no emotions basically. you can really program that kind of thing into someone if they dont have it. in todays world there is nothing that can be done to help them, however thats not to say that sometime in the future a treatment or method would be created. im hoping for one, as its sad to see someone as "evil" as that not be given a life other than the one they are forcibly given. i personally do not know anyone who has a disorder like this but i have read many medical journals and books on the anti-social personality but its hard to swallow the fact that these people really have nothing to look forward to in life other than a life of crime, separation, and a lack of the many things normal people are able to experience.
I have to say this was a very sad incedent, and understand what she went though. I know somebody, who acted out the same way as the step-mother discribes this boy.

The parents did every thing they could for that girl, but she just keept getting worse. She smoked, drank, did drugs, cut. She picked on all the kids at school it was bad enough the teachers were scared of her. She used people to get what she wanted and when they stoped she turned on them. After no schools in state would take her and getting kicked out of two bording schools, that specialised in problem children she ran away at 16. Found her finaly at the age of 20, married with two kids. One day something just clicked and she changed.

Stuff like this does happen, its just sad that in the case of this boy he made acted out and did something that can never be corrected.
the trouble is they cant really identify them if they are underage, as underage people are prone to act out in many different ways. ways that could mirror the traits of someone who is a sociopath to some extent. i know lots of younger people that steal, get in fights, lie, etc. all those are characteristics of someone who is a potential sociopath yet at the same time they are common characteristics of a teenager. now murder is something totally different and cant really be predicted by anyone but by the time the conclusions are made the act has already been done, so its really difficult to catch these people before this sort of thing happens because you run the risk of branding someone the wrong thing.
Jonc said "sociopaths a.k.a -people with antisocial disorder cant be helped or treated." I wonder am the only one who thinks that these people should be locked up for life away from society or executed? I believe that in the case of people who are identified BEFORE they kill someone, then they should be institutionalized or kept in a sort of leper colony, isolated from society so that they do not harm it. However, I think that people who are not identified until AFTER they kill someone should be capitally punished so that they do not continue to negatively impact society.
@bluegus

Actually i would guess the younger brother to be closer to the age of 15 or 16 for pre-college... generally speaking, kids don't usually have the foresight to prepare for collage at the age of 12. Not to mention the step mother claims the second child has a similar upbringing in terms of parents, so i would assume that he is closer to the age of the older brother. this ofcourse would make the second kid only 1-3 years younger thn the messed up brother. 5 or 6, at time of divorce (assuming 10 years). also note you kinda mixed things up a bit by making the time of divorce being 7 years ago for the messed up brother and then making it 10 years for the good brother. make it 10 years, and the messed up brother is more like only 8 years old, not 11, and making it 7 years would put the good brother at 8-9. (just clearing things up a bit)... overall, i'd say the divroce impact on the two children wasn't too different, unless the younger brother is indeed much younger than his older brother.

Also, i don't think the birth mother abandoned the child, cause it sounds like they parents had joint custody. Unless the parents live very close to eachother, the child can't really live with both of them because he has to go to school and what-not. So normally the child will live with one parent and occassionally visit the other parent, like on weekends or something. If the mother really wanted to abandon the child, she would have given the father full custody, which is apparently not the case. The police used to bring the boy back to his mother everytime they caught them. If the father had full custody, then she could have told the police to drag the child back to the father seeing as she was not the one legally responicble for the child; something she would have done considering the hell the kid was giving her. So she must have shared the custody and it was just decided they he would mostly live with the father, only to visit the mother on occasion.
well from my understanding sociopaths a.k.a -people with antisocial disorder cant be helped or treated. you cant teach or beat a consious into them no matter how hard you try, it just wont happen. you either have one or you dont. obviously these kids that did that murder fall into the definition of a sociopath.

the only thing that could really have been done would have been to keep them as far away from people as possible but its a little late for that. its hard to predict who is and who isnt likley to become a sociopath when the said person is underage as minors are known to get into trouble anyway.
@Thefremen
I would personally think that this kid is more like Achilles from Ender's Shadow.

@Wardo
I completely agree with your statement, and I think that the leniency towards minors is ridiculous. Even before the age of 10, I knew right from wrong, and I am willing to bet that I am not alone. I was reading the CNN article, and I think that it is ridiculous that this dumb little fuck only got 15 years for killing a man. I mean has our justice system degraded so far that they think the life of a man is only worth 15 goddamn years from a psychopathic little bitch? The homeless guy served in the military, and he wound up being beaten by three little bitches, had shit smeared on his face, and got stuffed into his own grill. Am I the only person that thinks that these kids should be executed or have life sentences without the possibility of parole? I mean come on. And if these kids suffer from APD, they should be removed from mainstream society as soon as possible because, do you really want these monsters to exist around you?

@Brer
Looking back on your statement, I find that I agree with you statement that the Army is not a dumping ground for criminals. These monsters need to be jailed or executed, preferrably the latter. I highly respect our fighting men and women who volunteered to serve our country, and if I was an enlisted, I know that I would not want a fucking psychopath like these kids in my platoon, or in my unit for that matter.

@Bluegus
For starters, the “**** you, I don’t have to listen to you,” thing was a quote from the email. However, I have looked back over my earlier post and I would like to revise it. For starters, I had just quickly reviewed the stuff published on GP, and it really pissed my off because it is bastards like these kids who ruin it for the rest of us and give teenagers a bad name. However, since then, I have had a little time to view this objectively and research some of the matters more carefully. I still believe that the system is too soft in believing the kids without investigating beforehand, but I believe that I worded my views on parenthood a little too loosely in my above post.
First, I would like to say that in no way do I advocate a super-strict household. Far from it, I feel that parental involvement should be more of a passive role, giving advice and guidance while allowing the child to learn from his or her own mistakes. I find that the things my parents constantly hammer me on usually go right over my head, but when I screw up something and the blame lies solely on me, then I usually learn from it and retain that lesson. Parents should be like an advisor to their children, sharing with them what experience has taught them. In extreme cases however, I feel that parental involvement should become much more active, such as not allowing a child to experiment with drugs. A parent should give the child the illusion of privacy but monitor their activities constantly to prevent them from making a really dumb mistake that could kill them.
One thing that really irritates me is when parents insist on dominancy over their child. Demanding respect from him or her, the parents punish relentlessly for what they feel is insubordination. However, just because you brought someone into the world does not give you the right to demand respect. Respect must be earned, not demanded, and I find it interesting that parents think that they can get their kids to respect them by punishing them. A parent should not be hypocritical: if you drink, then don't hammer your kids for drinking unless they are underage; the same thing goes for smoking. If you don't want your child to curse (although I consider this to be a negligible offense in light of the other, more serious offenses) then don't curse in the house yourself. The line between parent and child is not a thick line, and thus, the parent is not above the rules of the child. If you show the child that you respect him or her as an equal, then they will respect you back. Parents must learn that respect is not something they are entitled to, far from it, it must be earned through mutual understanding and respect.
I hope this clears up any misconceptions of my view of parenting, although as you pointed out, I don't have kids. I am only voicing my opinion from what I have witnessed as a child, so it may be a tad unrealistic. Still, I feel that parents should never forget that their kids have rights as well, and if they hope to have a decent rapport with their kids, they must respect their children as individuals and equals, for children are people too, and though they may sometimes act strangely or in an uneducated way, that is merely their own way of thinking. If you want to change it, explain what is wrong with their way, in a rational, objective manner, and then suggest what they should do.

Finally, I would like to ask two simple questions.
a) Why is CNN only sensationalizing the beating/degrading of Rex Baum when it occurred in 2003?
b) And why do all these little bastards get such small sentences when they are killing or seriously maiming these homeless people? (see the CNN article)
Proctor beat me to it. This kid is absolutely -CLASSIC- Antisocial Personality Disorder, and shows all of the necessary diagnostic criteria from the DSM-IV except for the ass-covering "don't make the diagnosis unless the subject is over 18" one. People are not "born evil" (but don't get me started on the nebulous definitions and concepts of "evil"), but there are people who are permanently incapable of being a functional member of society. People who do evil things because they have a built-in malfunction in their brains that prevents them from being able to feel empathy for other people, remorse for their actions, or understand in the abstract why something -is- "evil". Maybe not "born evil" but certainly they're born "broken" and they are not repairable by any techniques we have available.

As for the people who've suggested the Army, you're dead wrong.
A) As others have pointed out, it's not a lack-of-discipline problem. It's an inherent genetic defect manifested in developmental problems in the brain itself, not correctable at the behavioural level.

B) More importantly, the military is not a Dumping ground for criminals, the hopelessly aggressive, or any other socially undesirable category. We need motivated, dedicated, professional soldiers serving out of a sense of duty to their country and countrymen. There's a REASON we went from a draft system to an all-volunteer army.
If the mother wrote it or not. The person nailed it. Video Games didn't make him kill!
After reading the entire letter on PA, I feel for those parents. For those of you who have read the whole letter, the step mother mentions the school system ignoring her and her husband's pleas for help and accusing them as abusers. As a future teacher it's been drilled into my head time and time again to basically take abuse charges seriously no matter what child it comes from. As sad as it is, I can see where the administrators came as well from in just believing these kids had a bad home life. The whole ordeal is a shame, and for brutally beating to death a homeless person, 15 or not, those kids should have some serious jail time. By 15 you know what is right or wrong, and by blaming this crap on video games these kids obviously knew they were doing something wrong.
@ Fremen

No, because eventually Peter used his violent, agressive urges for the betterment of the Earth.
Basically he's like the brother from Ender's Game.
"Parents who screw up a divorce cause far less damage to a toddler than they do a child who’s already 8 or older."

I was 7. Phew; guess I just narrowly missed that "future hobo killer" threshold. :p
snakestream: You said, "if I had a kid and he thought “**** you, I don’t have to listen to you,” I would beat his ass or throw him out of the house, see how he thrives when he doesn’t have a parent to leach free housing, food, and entertainment from."

See, there's the problem. You don't have kids. Before I had children I thought as you do. If they do X and then don't listen then I'll do Y and they'll fall into line.

But in reality that doesn't necessarily work. There are two things in this world that are incredibly difficult to train. One of them is cats. The other is children. Raising children, especially good children, is a crap-shoot. Sometimes you just get a bad one. Or maybe you displine with the belt when you should be disciplining with love. Or vice versa. Too much love and not enough discipline. Don't presume that you have the answer as to what happened to this kid and what the parents could have done to avoid this.

And you think that being strict = compliance? I have a number of colleagues who represent parents when Child Protective Services tries to take their children away. I have discussed this kind of thing with them. They have had many instances when a teenage child has made up stories of rape, incest, beatings, etc which later turned out to be proven false. Without fail, according to my colleagues, these teens come from either (a) ultra religious households or (b) ultra strict households.

So you see, sometimes displine or religion is not the answer, but the problem.
Bluegus, don't forget that his brother went through the same circumstances, and still stayed a rational human being. Heck, what is it – half of all marriages end in divorce these days? Why isn't half our youth population out murdering the homeless? Because most of them aren't born sociopaths.

Everyone has problems. This kid, and others like him, are problems.
@Austin
Complete agreement. IMO, if I had a kid and he thought “fuck you, I don’t have to listen to you," I would beat his ass or throw him out of the house, see how he thrives when he doesn't have a parent to leach free housing, food, and entertainment from. However, the problem nowadays is that the problem of shitty parents has made social workers and the cops likely to believe anything a kid says without so much as an investigation. The second that little fucker says that he was abused, everyone sides with him, no questions asked. How about checking for abuse, looking at his record, or thinking for a second, hm should I believe this kid? People think that just because he's a kid, he's more trustworthy than the adults. Even worse is how everyone is worried about the kids, and the people who are supposed to be taking care of the little fuckers are handicapped by idiots. In the old days, talk back to a teacher and you got your ass whupped. Social workers didn't really give a shit if you got swatted on the ass. Now I am not saying that there are not bad parents, and social services is vital to our country to prevent ACTUAL child abuse, but I believe that people are greatly overreacting to sensationalized cases.

@Doctor Proctor

"We’re talking stealing cars, setting fires, drinking, getting picked up for drugs, beating up handicapped kids at school (yes, really) stealing things out of our house… all with this “I’ll do whatever the fuck I want” attitude."

I am aware of antisocial disorder, but things like this are extremely excessive. The kid needs to be locked away from society, preferrably in a jail cell, because antisocial disorder is not something that is treatable, per se. By keeping this monster away from society, it is not so much punishing the kid as it is saving society from his lack of ethics. Boot camp would also work because the army can place people like him who are worthless to society on the front lines and maybe save some of the people who might actually contribute to society. Call me heartless, but IMO, people like him should either be locked away or killed.
grombar: I was waiting for someone to bring that up. It's a very interesting point.

Let's analyze this. The letter seems to indicate that the other brother is younger . "He is currently working his butt off right now to save up money to go to school for architecture." Which means he's pre-college. From this I surmise that the brother is currently probably between the ages of 12 and 16. If we assume that the father split with the biological mother about 1 to 3 years before meeting the new wife, that puts the split-up of the parents at about 10 years ago (new wife has been with father for 7 years.) Which means that little brother was probably between the ages of 2 and 6 at the time his parents split.

The impact of divorce on a 10 year old is much, much heavier than the impact on a toddler. I've gone through it myself. I practice it (I'm an attorney who does some divorce work.) Parents who screw up a divorce cause far less damage to a toddler than they do a child who's already 8 or older.

The fact that this kid has a well-rounded brother really doesn't mean anything within the context of the information we have in front of us.
I felt sick to my stomach when I read that last night (technically this morning). I was horrified that all that could happen.

I want to say the parents could have done something differently, but given what the lady has said, there wasn't much of anything left to do.

I want to know of the kid had a record though, because in her letter, it said he was arrested a number of times, including some drug related issues. With all that issue, I am utterly surprised no one even took note of the messed up mind, other than the ones who were forced to live with him.

Bluegus
You bring some interesting points. I beleive that the emotional stress on the kid is the biggest problem he had. He was broken possibly after the shockwave of the divorce hit him in the face, though thats just easy speculation.
hmmmmm............kids who beat a homeless man to death in cold blood might have had issues before they started playing video games?! Shocker.
Just to play Devil's Advocate.

This woman talks about how broken and evil this kid is. However, she has only known the kid for 7 years. Did anyone else notice her age? She is now 29. Which means that she and the boy's father got together when she was 22, the boy was 11, and the father was presumably 40.

And keep in mind that we don't know much about the biological mother except for the fact that it appears that she may have abandoned him (I surmise that from the fact that at some point, the boy went to go live with his mother. Which means that he was not living with her before. Which means that he spent full time with his dad.)

So, at a difficult age (somewhere around the age of 8, 9, 10 or 11, most likely) the boy's parents split. Boy's mother possibly abandons him. And dad picks up a very young girlfriend whom he then marries. New wife, only 10 years older than the child now starts acting like another mother (notice she talks about everything "we" tried to do to discipline.)

So what this kid felt at an early age may have included betrayal, abandonment, and Lord knows what else. He almost certainly resented his mom for abandoning him, his dad for possibly emotionally abandoning him, and his new stepmother for (a) existing and (b) over-stepping her bounds by trying to assert a parental role.

I'm not saying that the kid was not broken. This is a horrific incident. And if he wasn't broken before, he certainly is broken now. But what made him that way? Without knowing much, much more about what this kid went through, we can only speculate.

At the very least, though, I think we can all agree that of all the potential culprits that made this boy into the monster he is, video games probably had absolutely nothing to do with it.
"if I wasn’t worried about this punk going Private Pyle on somebody."

Let him keep running his mouth, and if he physically threatens another soldier, they would be within their rights to defend themselves, and anyone who assists will be acting in his defense, hence, he'll land his ass i nthe hospital a few times. As far as i know, in the military, he won't be able to force no as an answer, because they don't take no as an answer. Hell, let him into Iraq and let him experience true hell.

And I hate to bring him int othis ,as in fact, he does haven nothing to do with it, but despite if this letter is real or not, Thompson would fight this kid's imprisonment tooth and nail and demanding that Rockstar execs take that place in a cell. He's defend psychos like this before when it was obvious it was them who caused their child to go postal.

My apologies for that, feel free to delete this opsot and I'll just repost the first part.
@Austin lewis: Did you read the letter? They tried to get the police to hold him, but the cops just returned him home because he was a minor. The claims of abuse didn't help that I'm sure, since they would've just thought he was "acting out".
I'm going to give this the benefit of the doubt. That letter had so much detail, not to mention emotion in it, that I think it would be very difficult to fake.
Honestly, I can't imagine how she (and the real mother and father) must have felt, to try everything you can think of and be completely unable to do anything for this wretched soul in the end.
A minor can't admit themself, but a parent can admit a child (or in your case a guardian)

And I do believe that some people are just born evil. Thats the only explanation for some of the shit you see in the world.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial_personality_disorder

That link is all about something called Antisocial Personality Disorder. Something that, in light of the kid's actions and the letter from the Step-Mom, this kid most likely suffered from. Here's some highlights...

Common characteristics of people with antisocial personality disorder include:

Persistent lying or stealing
Recurring difficulties with the law
Tendency to violate the rights of others (property, physical, sexual, emotional, legal)
Aggressive, often violent behavior; prone to getting involved in fights
Disregard for the safety of self or others
A childhood diagnosis of conduct disorders
Lack of remorse for hurting others
Lack of guilt
Recklessness, impulsivity


This isn't something that boot camp, spartan living conditions or beatings can correct. With no guilt and no regard for the self or for others, what are you appealing to? He won't mind the pain, and he won't feel shamed. He won't follow authority and he won't care whether his parents love him or fear him...and he certainly won't fear or love anybody else.

Unfortunately, this is not something that can be diagnosed in a kid, although it's very apparrent that he suffered from it, or a similar disorder. It was only a matter of time before something like this happened, and other than medicating him, I don't think that there's anything that the parents could have done.
Oh yeah, I forgot. BOOT CAMP
@JonC2006
The kids obviously a sociopath: Failure to learn from experiences and change according to punishment, Failure to feel any sort of empathy or sympathy for the victim, and he appears to have some sort of Anti Social Disorder.
@dog welder

Actually, I didn't miss it, and hince I said forced. Yes, I think that in situations like this, they wanna act so tough? Send their butts in and don't let em out until they ain't got a leg to stand on.

@Austin Lewis

I agree with number two, but number three is probably the worst in my opinion. Abondoning him somewhere is like sending him to jail, he'll only get worse in the long run. What's more dangerous then being sick? Strong? It's being smart about it.
"I’d take every thing out of his room till it was spartan; a bed, a mattress, and a desk"
Well, Austin, like she said:
"We tried absolutely everything we could think of to get him to behave like a normal human being… we tried groundings, negative reinforcement / punishment, positive reinforcement, counseling, and anything and everything the counselors suggested. We tried to get him interested and involved in extracurricular activities, like hockey, drama, music, art, anything, but he got himself kicked out of every group he was in with his “make me” attitude. When we would ground him, we took away everything. No TV, no computer, no phone, no leaving the house, no snacks or junk food…. Everything. When he was grounded, he was only allowed to sit in his room and read or draw. He was actually a pretty good artist, and we tried to encourage him to spend his time working with his talent. He would just sit there and take it… the groundings had absolutely no affect on him at all. Most of the time, he didn’t even remember why he was being grounded. At the end of it, we would ask him if it was worth it to have everything taken away in exchange for what he did… he usually just shrugged. He could be grounded for weeks, or a month at a time, and then the very next day would do something to get back in trouble again. Most kids get grounded or punished a couple of times, and then they want to avoid having to go through it again… not this kid, nothing seemed to phase him."
@Arch.
Send him to the Army my ass, we don't want him. Lack of discipline. He's worthless.
@Gil.
I don't mean just taking away the extras. i mean making his room a prison cell.
"No TV, no computer, no phone, no leaving the house, no snacks or junk food"
Add to that no music, no radio, only 2 pairs of clothes left in the room, etc.
Verbinator
The trouble is teens are not "children" they are minors yes but they are now their own being with their own sense of self if they have been tought poorly they can become very hard to handle,they are no longer children you cant spank them you are limited in your control over them,what I am getting at you cant just start to become a parent with a teen you ahve to be a parent from the beginning.

with that said the greatest of parenting is not going to keep a kid from being a evil teen,thus why I said parenting is half of it.

Austin Lewis
so far thats me,not changeign alot sicne 96 when we lost our house due to fire then 2 years later lost the new one to sewer backing up then the house we were in was condemned mom died from canser and dad died of his poor health 9 months later....of corse I might be tromitized still ahve nightmares always had people issues....anyway theres more rhyme in reason in thigns,stress and the inability to control it can really screw ones mind over from what I have read this guy was messed up and just was left to seep in his madness(really what can you do boot camp,psych evaluation, if you are poor you cant just go to a metal hospital and get admitted without first harming your self or others I know this first hand I had to nearly kill my self to get some help) .
Like with sot cases like this one thing leads to another and as you fall threw the cracks all that awaits is the abyss.
Well, there's a plethora of things you can do to this bastard kid.
ONE:
You send him to a holding cell; police would normally do that. Go to a police station and tell them you can't deal wit the fucking bastard.
TWO:
Beat him. When I was little, if I had done something like this, my dad would've crippled me. I don't have to do what you tell me to my ass. I'd take every thing out of his room till it was spartan; a bed, a mattress, and a desk. If he kept acting up, I would jack him up. There's a saying: You live in the King's House, you obey the king. If he was out of control, you have to deal with it, in a violent manner if its forced.
THREE: Abandon him somewhere.
FOUR:COMMIT HIS BITCH ASS.
Humans have natural tendices to be good or evil,great parenting can keep a evil kid out of jail because they have learned to control and funnel their "issues" bad parenting can teach a good kid to not control them selfs at all thus always get in trouble with the law...

Parenting is half of it.
I would actually recommend that readers here go look at the slashdot discussion. Much of it is really interesting.

http://games.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=07/02/22/1924205
I have to admit, I'm usually on board with the "blame the parents" crowd for this kind of behavior. But if this woman's statement is true (and I get a feeling that it could be true ... I'm a parent of an older stepchild whose behavior aggravates me at times ... but nothing like this, not even on the same planet with this), then it sounds like the father and the step-mom have tried to deal with this as good parents.

Anyone who has lived with teenage children knows that in a sense, they are like guided missiles in orbit around a distant moon. Once launched into their teenage years, you have to hope that the "programming" they recieved in the form of love, reaffirment, morals, ethics, values, etc. will keep them on course, or at least keep them from self-destructing until their brains have the upper hand on their hormones again.

Even so, the kid sounds like a sociopath in training to be a psychopath. God forgive us if we allow a defense attorney to get him off on an insanity charge.

Perhaps medication and therapy may help his situation, but I foresee a long career spent in solitary confinement. Perhaps the NEXT murder he commits (after he gets out of prison and forgets to take his medication for a while) will take place in a death penalty state.
""can someone be born evil?" vs "the parents could have done something differently.""

Well, by a technical standpoint, both are possible. Someone isn't necessarily born evil, but rather, imbalanced. Chemical deficiencies, brain misdevelopment, etc. can all lead to such negative behavior which cannot be cured by therapy unless it's medical, which often, I believe, can have serious side-effects. As for if the parents could have done something; if it was biological, options would probably have been limited. However, if it was psychological, well, again, options would be limited.
@MrKenyon- Yea, he's gonna get skull fucked lol
This kid belongs in a mental institution.
That actually brings up a good point, dog welder. As soon as the kid busted out the 'I was abused' comments, all assistance to the parents seemed to just shut down.

Now, when a minor makes a claim like this, do people try to verify if this is true, or is it policy to immediately consider the parents to be the bad guy? I'm not trying to make light of child abuse, but it seems like this can easily be manipulated, as we've seen in this case, and I'm sure it's not the only one. A quick physical ("Hmm, I see no signs of bruising or beating. What, did your mother hurt you with bad words?") and a touch of common sense (6'3", 200 lb kid vs. 5' whatever parents? Yeah, maybe if all 3 ganged up on him...) would have gone a long way in proving this claim wrong.
Oh, almost forgot.

According to the CNN article, the kid is now 18. Military work might not be a bad idea, if I wasn't worried about this punk going Private Pyle on somebody.
Arch, I'm not sure if you missed the part of the article that said the kid was 15 when he did this. You can't join the army until you're 18.

And I do think some people are just born with a screw loose. That sounds like the case here, especially when this kid's brother is normal.

The sad thing here is the parents reached out to authorities for help, but the kid manipulated the system and those in authority turned their backs on the parents. Maybe if they had done something differently this kid wouldn't have perpetrated a heinous crime like this.
Now see, I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt, just like Gabe did.

This kid is sick, that's the bottom line, he's sick and he was stubborn, the worst combo in any human. Massive damage occured when she mentioned he was 6'1 and 220, because from personal experience, those guys don't go down without some serious injuries.

This kid didn't need his little buddies to help pull this off, not in the least. It's in my firm belief (and no I will not debate this here with people) that you can in fact be born with a twisted sense of reality. People like that, who have the means simply need to be beat the hell up. I'm not saying abuse here, not by a long shot, but someone has got to beat them down to make sure they realize they are not nearly as strong as they thought they were.

Send the kid to the army, let him mess with those guys, and for god's sake take the cuffs off the drill instructors! Either way, he won't get any worse if he's forced to serve his entire life, and he'll still be a productive member of the world.
My ex GF is a speech pathologist at several Kindergartens. She tells me all kinds of stories about young kids who are just born bad. Once, she broke some bones in her foot and came into class with it all bandaged up. One kid came up to her, asked which toe was broken, and after she told him the little bastard proceeded to stomp on it as hard as he could!
For God's sakes, people, quit bringing Jack Thompson in articles that he's not the subject of. To think, people around here wonder why others think we're obsessed with him...

I'd like to think Gabe and the Penny Arcade Justice Team verified this lady's identity before slapping her story up on the website. It's only common sense for such a serious subject, after all, and one can only hope that he's not as dumb as his character in the comic.

This situation doesn't really lower my faith in humanity too much (a faith that changes depending on news articles I read and the weather.) Honestly, this kid's just an f' up who needs to spend the rest of his life behind bars to make sure he doesn't do crap like this again.
Those old Political Farts are gonna see two issues here to exploit. Videogame Violence and Teens becoming out of control. Thats all we need....
HE (yes, him) will publicly accuse this woman of child abuse on account of her reading Penny Arcade and therefore being a gamer.

Yeah, I was surprised my faith in humanity has sunk to the level where I would consider this a liklihood but there you go. This is what people like him do to humanity.
There's a strong urge to take the route of the anti-gamer and accept this as fact without bothering to research, but I have to be honest and admit I'd like to see some more confirmation of identity before claiming it as genuine, no offence to the young man's stepmother, but the Internet being what it is, anything is possible.
I'm kind of concerned what will happen if it is true. During one part of the email the lady says she is a long time reader of Penny Arcade. It's not a reach to believe that she is a gamer since she reads PA. If that is the case, then the videogame argument won't die, but instead it will be raised to question the gamer parenthood ability instead.
She is the step mother. She was involved at most for 7 year i think. If anything in the letter is true I think she made an attempt at helping this kid. Plus for the time being the other kid is doing okay.
the kid was probably a sociopath as the nature of the incident just sounds like the work of one all though it could be possible that he wasnt. if in fact he was, he couldnt really be helped. and like she said, video games could not have contributed to it in anyway whatsoever as their perception of right and wrong isnt there to begin with. sociopaths view other people as "objects" or "tools" and really have no regard for other people, they simply use them for whatever ways they believe will make themselves feel in control. their upbringing is irrelevent to a point as well.
As anyone independantly confirmed the genuicity of this letter?
Everyone assumed PA has done something like that.

The discussion on slashdot has been pretty fierce. Alot of it boils down to "can someone be born evil?" vs "the parents could have done something differently."
FINALLY! Its nice to see someone stand up for games and point out the real facts. The kid was evil, it had nothing to do with games, he's just a sick f*ck

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