Nintendo Says Bye to Blogging Beauty over Co-Worker Comments
Nintendo Says Bye to Blogging Beauty over Co-Worker Comments
September 29, 2007
A Nintendo contract employee found herself on the unemployment line recently over too-candid blog postings.As reported by Seattle alternative paper The Stranger, Jessica Zenner was let go by Mario & Co. on August 31st:
Zenner... can now be added to the ever-growing list of casualties in the workplace war on blogs... All they did was participate in the great American pastime: bitching about work
...Zenner says she was never informed of any blog policy at Nintendo, but even so, she wrote under the pen name "Jessica Carr"—although she posted pictures of herself on her site—and never mentioned her employer by name. Somehow, Zenner's bosses at Nintendo still found her site.
Zenner's Inexcusable Behavior blog (NSFW) apparently riled Nintendo executives, in part because of comments Zenner made about co-workers:
She digresses into a wry tirade against one of her bosses: "One plus about working with [a] hormonal, facial-hair-growing, frumpy [woman] is that I have found a new excuse to drink heavily," Zenner writes. "My gut tells me that this woman hasn't been [bleeped] in years.
...Nintendo spokeswoman Perrin Kaplin says Nintendo doesn't bar employees from having blogs, but "we generally don't encourage them." However, contradicting Zenner, Kaplin says, "[Zenner] was expressly discouraged from doing what she did. I've seen everything that she's written and it's really not work appropriate.
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Don't have enough info to say whether or not this was good on Nintendo's part, but hey, this is reality.
I really think this is going too far. Anyone who thinks that an underling hating their boss for whatever reason and subsequently complaining about it is somehow unusual has rose-colored glasses superglued to their eyes.
Names withheld, under an alias, ona private blog? Nintendo should have just kept their noses out of it and their traps shut. I think this is really poor form on their part.
By some of the logic I see here, every person on the site should lose their job since they can bitch about coworkers on there.
It is also this way with the out-of-house testing for Microsoft and Sony.
Yes, blogging can be percieved as public...but what if someone comes to misplace a personally written in journal and a tabloid or some other journalist or WHOMEVER finds it, reads it and makes it public? Would the individual whom wrote it be fired then? What if someone overheard you talking to a friend on the phone about a particular nasty situation at work and just-so-happened to see a logo on your shirt?
I can sum up the direct thoughts of all those scenarios and the course of action that could follow them, as well as plenty of others, with two words: Life happens.
In rebuttal to my previous sentence, "Without chaos we have no order and without order, chaos is doomed.".
Unless the lady was blogging from work, passing along company secrets (which, if I read the article correctly, she wasn't), left the sites up on her computer and/or told fellow co-workers about her blog then I can see of no reason as to why action should have been taken against her.
Thoughts, opinions...it all happens. It's life and to be otherwise would be firing ourselves.
If you don't, then it means that you've got a de facto right to harass and abuse co-workers, and create a really negative place to work, basically getting the ability to force someone to quit. Why should co-workers have that ability where employers don't?
Sadly, it's also (in most places) a 'no-fault' employment country. Which is to say that you can be fired for just about anything but sex, race or religion.
I do, however find that those responsible for grudge-firing someone over what they wrote in their (constitutionally protected, for the time being anyway) newszine.
So, yeah, sad, but I'm on her side -- and any of you that think firing people over their excercise of (constitutionally protected) rights to free speech should take your censoring, prudish, thick skulls to another place to live -- you all make me sick.
Yeah, right.
That being said, Zenner's termination was a little too harsh. A public reprimand, administrative leave, or even a public apology would be fine.
She never named the company or ther coworkers by name but I think it was the photo that did her in. Once someboy could tie the posts with the company that was it. Then it gets around that she is posting about coworkers, insulting posts at that, it can make for a very uncomfortable work enviroment that is not needed. If she had issues with folks she needed to deal with them directly, not insult and whine about them to the entire world.
It shows very poor tact in my opinion.
...Of course it's not work appropriate. It's a BLOG, not an internal memo. Unless she used company resources to write the blog, I don't see how that argument has any merit.
Have there been any employees who have taken their former employers to court over a decision to terminate them based on the content in their blog? If not, I might try bitching about work myself and see if I can't get the ball rolling.
Nintendo spokeswoman Perrin Kaplin says Nintendo doesn't bar employees from having blogs, but "we generally don't encourage them."
Like work should have that much of a bearing over someone's personal life that they wouldn't have a blog unless it was encouraged.
Sex isn't work appropriate either, but it's still allowed in the off time.
I think in the next couple of years we're going to be seeing an incress in Lible suits targeting blog authors for this very reason
But then isn't a great American pastime bitching about your job? Sorry, but i'm on her side.
If she was being bitchy about people online, chances are she was no joy to be around at work either. She may have been done in by complaints by her coworkers.
Freedom of Speech does not mean freedom from the consequences of choosing your words poorly ... or publishing them where the world can see.
She has her rights to express herself but Nintendo has a right to protects it’s self and it’s employees.
Freedom of Speech doesn't only not mean freedom from consequences, it doesn't even vaguely apply here.. this is a private company who found out one of their employees was publicly, and offensively, discussing problems with coworkers outside their workplace.. if Zenner had kept her comments private between friends, it would not have happened, instead she decided to post them on the internet for all to see.
@Jim
Very good advice.
@rdeegvaini
Employers do NOT have the ability nor the right to intrude on their employees' private lives. Blogs are not private. They can be (and are) read by anyone at anytime, including your employer.
@BlackIce, Leftie
Bitching about your job is one thing. Making a comment like what Zenner did and posting it on an outlet in which anyone can see is not a smart move.
I wanna dissagree with you about it not applying here but alas, I really can't come up with a good counter argument. However I can say this, The First Amendment was made so that people could activily partisapate in the political proscess. This rule also applys to our jobs, we have the freedom of saying that a certian person is whorable at their jobs and should be fired from it or openly say that they are getting treated diffrently because of something.
I still feel that Nintendo is in the right with this becase she was attacking a person not on their work habbits but on the fact that the person may have not gotten some action in their private life. That violates the 5th amendment there.
So overall I guess I'm agreeing with you!
It's also true that such open speech has been abused as well. While individuals have opened their hearts and minds to the public, others have used such open speech to intentionally cause harm. One example has been the dontdatehimgirl.com type of sites where anonymous individuals can make all sorts of accusations, true or false, and not be held responsible for even the false accusations.
But at the same time, venting criticism about others has been denied and allowed stressful situations to build out of cotnrol.
So it has proven to be difficult to create a fair, neutral stance on such Public speech.
Nightwng2000
NW2K Software
Shouldn't of posted it if you weren't ready to deal with the consequences. :P
I guess I should shut up now - heaven knows I'll be jobseeking somewhere down the line, some HR lackey will read this, and I'll be blacklisted and end up "living in a van down by the river."
What do you think will happen if your employer finds out that you hate your job and your workmates or superiors? On-the-spot dismissal may be a bit harsh, but they're not going to be expected to overlook it. You work *for* a company, not just in the same building as it. What she did was insubordinate and would have easily been reason for A Talk.
If you really do hate working for a particular company and moan about it on the intertron, then you might not have to endure them for too long.
For the most part I can relate. Pretty much ever since the advent of globalization and the decline of unions we (employees) have been steadily losing ground in the workplace as companies demand more and more, and give less and less. Don't misunderstand me, I'm NOT - (capital) advocating the return of unions. That's a grade A example of exchanging one set of problems for another.
What I do, however resent, is companies treating their workforces poorly and then playing victim-theater at the least little thing their employees might do.
(sigh)
Honestly, I don't have a solution, but I can't help but notice the article said "contractor" at Nintendo. My instinct say they probably expected her to give more loyalty then they were willing to return.
Well, when you have a bad one, yes. You and I have had bad jobs with terribly hostile working environments. But she worked at Nintendo as a CONTRACTOR, making a huge salary no doubt. So no, I don't think she could get away with it.
Imagine tellin your Major to his face what you thought of him. Would you still be in that unit afterwards? Probably not.
I am sure that breaks some laws of some kind but WTF its not like corporations follow them anyway, nothing like lobbying to lobotomize regulation..
The rules in the Brit Army are a bit different to the US. But I don't fight for Britain anymore, so that's okay. But I still fight.. Anyway..
Uhm... so I think my point is that she has a right to free speech and all..
Its very intresting if you wanna to check it out.
The subject of if its right or wrong to fire some one over a blog is kind of hard to come up with a sound argument on ether side.
I think Nintendo should have ordered a cease and desist or just deal with the problem directly instead of giving the pink slip.
She gave up her anonymity (did I spell that right?) as soon as she put her picture up. I have no sympathy for her; you have to be responsible. And if you are not, then, what happens happens. She wasn't responsible because she gave her identity, whether she knew it or not, and got punished for it. Sure, maybe a firing is a little harsh, but oh well. She seems rich, so maybe she can affort it.
Companies fire people all the time from not doing their work to doing it to well to infighting with staff and other reasons this is no worse than anything else but they need to protect themselfs from people suing them from being fired wrongly thus they need to state on paper where the line is and not pull it from their ass.
People should be able to speak their minds with out fear for persicution, yes there comes concequinces with speaking ones mind however the person shouldn't have to fear loosing their jobs. In my opinion there is nothing diffrent from fireing some one over a flamatory blog then to fire some one because they didn't vote for Bush. Its not a rediculos reach here because your using the same logic to defend the company fireing the person. If every one in the office voted for Bush then there would be no drama in the office place plus a vote for Bush is good for the company becasue he's in our back pocket. If you vote for Kerry then you should suffer the concequince of your actions.
Additionally, privacy concerns go out the window the minute you post something on the internet for the entire world to see.
You absolutely have the right to trash your co-workers and the company you work for with petty insults, but your company has the right to fire your ass for doing so, too.
Unless I missed something, the posters on that site all appear to be careful about retaining anonymity.
@Valoharth-
That's a huge stretch and not the same logic at all. A better comparison using the same logic would be someone who worked for the Bush campaign getting fired for publicly posting that he wouldn't vote for Bush because Bush is an idiot.
I'm lacking in opinion on the matter whether or not she deserved getting fired, I don't believe I can know enough to make a fair judgement call. What I'm glad to see didn't happen, is them making some sort of an example of her, because that usually ends up in one person taking the hit of the crimes everybody else might commit.
In today's culture it's despicable to see so many men and women be judged as a person by looking at their job. Miss Zenner was obviously not worth much to her employer, and in disregard of the effect it would have on her life, they fired her because it was the easier thing to do.
Let me quote it for you boys and girls..
"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances."
Congress, CONGRESS, not Nintendo, or Sony, or Microsoft, or McDonalds, or any other privately owned company.. they can do what the hell they want to stop you insulting and degrading your teammates in a publicly accessible blog. If you work for a company you are expected to show some sort of respect in public for your coworkers, and she didn't ... personal insults like the one quoted in the article...
" She digresses into a wry tirade against one of her bosses: “One plus about working with [a] hormonal, facial-hair-growing, frumpy [woman] is that I have found a new excuse to drink heavily,” Zenner writes. “My gut tells me that this woman hasn’t been [bleeped] in years."
.. are not only damaging to the work environment, but down right out of line.. how would you like it if you were this woman and you found out one of your coworkers was writing things like that about you? Would you want to go to work with her the next day? Everything about this girl's blog suggests she is a hurtful, selfish individual who places a higher importance on being pretty than she does on people's actual value to society. I'm damn sure this carried across into her working environment, since even if you don't actively say anything this sort of attitude towards your workmates shows in your actions.
If you need to rant about your boss in a blog, lock the entry down so it's private or friends-only (in the case of something like LJ). It's common sense.
-P
As for her having a picture on her blog, it's not like she's a spokesperson for Nintendo, so the chance of her ranting being tied to them is nonexistent.
And finally, her comments about the fuzzy faced woman, it sounds like said woman was in a chronic bad mood, and could probably have used a decent rogering. Why do you feel you should be able to judge that Miss Zenner is just a mean girl simply because she bitches about work? Or that her opinion of the bearded woman isn't accurate? For all we know, Miss Zenner was perfectly professional and cheery at work and used her blog to vent her daily frustrations in an environment conducive to and and in a manner that shouldn't have gotten her any form of reprimand or punishment. She made every effort not to tie her blog to her position at Nintendo, and because she made that effort, they were out of line terminating her (assuming there was nothing in her contract forbidding it).
She probably read "Out of Harm's Way".
If you were bitching at work, said boss would be well within their right to do so.
If you were away from work, and they overheard you, then fired you upon your return to work, you'd have grounds for a lawsuit. When you're off the clock and away from your job, you no longer required to behave the same as you are while at work. So if you're at restaurant and bitching about your boss who happens to be sitting behind you, he's can't just fire you because he doesn't like what you're saying about him. He can confront you about it there, as a private person, but not as a entity of the company. If he does, he's in the wrong.
Unless its in the contract of the employee the company can not fire for "any" reason, its not quite freedom of speech but it is when it falls OUTSIDE of the contract.
Now if its in the contract well she laid her eggs in her bed and broke them all.
What happens to whistleblowers then? If my memory serves me right they are protected by labor laws, they are able to keep there job when the blow the whistle. But then I do remember the case about Mechanic on the airplanes. He anonymously posted videos to youtube showing mechanical defaults and problems there were not being taken care of. In the end, he was eventually found out and got fired not for whistleblowing buf under a different reason that got around the labor laws. So what does this have to do with the story?
Some times the only way to speak out is speak into a crowd and hope someone pays attention. Unfortunately for some when they are speaking out the person listening is part of the problem. They take action and the person ends up losing. Its a shame really.
But I wonder what actions nintendo did before firing here? I pwould have like to known the about the person she is having problems with because she could not be the only one. But if she is the only one is there a reason for it? Could it be worked out? Or was she just fired? There are problems in every company but if just fire people because they dont try to remedy the problems it only gets worst.
Its no longer Big Government that we must be afraid of, its Big Business as well since They can control your life and your likelihood of getting a job.
My Biggest fear BIG GOVERNMENT AND BIG BUSINESS working together where we slowly give up our rights because neither one can protect us from the other.
Ironically, big government is about the only thing left that has a shot at stopping big buisness. But the two grow closer each day, =/.
Nintendo has already screwed over their consumers this gen by selling them antiquated hardware and ancient franchises devoid of value. This whole firing is just another reason not to support Nintendo products.
And if you wouldn't photocopy it and mail it to all your friends and sort-of-friends who might or might not photocopy it and pass it on to undesirable parties, don't write it in a friends-only blog.
If she had kept her bitching to when she hung out with her friends, or even in private emails to people she trusted, she'd still have a job. I feel sorry for her, and I wish they'd explored other avenues of discipline, but if that's how you have to learn your lesson...
I find it hard to believe that anyone would feel bad for her. She's not even an employee, she's a CONTRACTOR, which means that unlike the average Joe at Nintendo, she gets paid a fee, not a salary. IE $500 per day regardless of how much you do, instead of $50/hr. She makes more money than many of the people she's insulting, and yet she feels that she should bitch about the people who are paying her. That's stupid. If you don't like the people, leave the job and stop taking the money. Otherwise, come up with a real complaint or shut the fuck up.
As to people (trolls) saying bullshit like "Heil spying", it isn't spying. It's posted on the internet. It's public. Spying would be if I opened her laptop, read her emails and her files, and then prosecuted her based on them.
Oh, by the way, there is no 'Right to Privacy' in America. Read the constitution and the bill of rights.
I dont' believe for a minute that this is the first time they had this problem with her either.
The first obvious thing is, hey -- it's a cute girl. This will automatically spring my uber-manly "I'll save you!!" reflexes in. I've got to be careful of this, because it WILL bias my opinions.
The second, is that I know this could happen, so I specifically don't blog about work, unless it's personal reflections about my field. It's unprofessional to attack co-workers, bosses, or management unless there's a greater ethical need for it, such as whistle-blowing.
The final thing is, despite the fact that it's just common sense not to bust on your bosses in your blog, it WOULD be nice to be able to have the freedom to talk about co-workers or bosses without retribution. I mean, it's about the freedom to say and do what you'd like outside of work. I mean, freedom is the freedom to say something people don't like.
In spite of the first thing, I think practically speaking, the second trumps the third. If I was out on a soapbox saying that sort of thing in public about the people I work with, I'd expect to be fired. I'm not sure the ideal here. It's really not professional or polite to attack co-workers.
Nintendo, you suck. I hope she sues. -.-
She probably visited it at work one time, is how they found it.
That said, GP, why are you calling her a "Blogging Beauty"? She wasn't hired to model for Nintendo and her blog isn't particularly centered on beauty or fashion. Objectifying her like that only opens the case up to a lot of sexist fact-hedging; not at all fair.
"Your words are useless here now. We have standards here and we don't like people talking about their employers in a place where ANYONE can hear them!"
"Don't be stupid! People often write about their on the job experiences in public all the time. Like Newgrounds!"
"Newgrounds?"
*wry grin from person standing in back*
"THIS..
..IS..
NINTENDOOOOOOOO!"
*boot*
~Otaku-Man
Or did this knee-jerk reaction suddenly not only gave her an entire new spiel, but no reason NOT to just issue out all the names. Only after they fired her, do we learn which company was the cause of her ills.
So, those of you who are saying they had to do what they did to keep their image, they put themselves in the spotlight for all the blog said negatively, instead of being 'a big business'.
On the other hand, if nothing was done, and depending on the content of the blog (it seems posts of the nature of the article are gone, or I do not know how to find them) say, 1 in 5 would somehow know what company she was talking about, and 1 in 10 an exact person.
Now, everyone who had read her blog knows for sure, 100% of her readers. Also, lets be honest, people will want to see what was said which was 'oh so horrible', and if she had kept all the post, say, her readership of those 'oh so horrible' articles would have grown by half again, so, a 50% increase of readers, all of them knowing exactly who was being talked about.
If she should have been fired or not, if the company was right or not, if they thought firing her would be a silent end to her blog and protect the image, they have seriously failed.
Well, who knows how much they thought these things through.
This news was posted in Joystiq as well, but dear god, unlike the Gamepolitics comments, the Joystiq comments were full off flamewars, trolls and console fanboys.
The hairy-lipped/sex life comments are an act of subordinance that have an immediate effect once the blog loses its anonymity (i.e. when the stupid bint started posting pictures of herself on her blog and expected nobody to tie her face to her words). Once this happens if I were her boss I'd immediately be looking for a way for her to leave, at first discussing a severance fee (e.g. 2 months' pay for 1 month's notice) or if she refused to agree to any of that, giving her her each of her three strikes as soon as she stepped out of line and giving her notice at the earliest opportunity.
If she's making comments like that she clearly has no respect, no work ethic and doesn't want to be there, so she's not worth company time and money. Nintendo (of America) did right in showing her the door, but unless they had sufficient legal cause to get shot of her they could find themselves in a sticky situation.
I had one instance where someone I knew was always nice to me...then one day I stumbled across her livejournal and found THREE STRAIGHT PAGES of personal attacks directed at me...not only that, but they were all issues that could've easily been worked out had she actually TALKED to me instead of trashing me on a public forum for all her friends (many of them mutual) to see...
Besides, from what was quoted in the article, it sounds like she was more interested in showing how witty she is than truly venting. I could do the same thing regarding my job...course it would make me a hypocrite since I have one blog post trashing a group of now former co-workers who fired blogging -- different situation though, they crossed the line and violated their NDA by publicly trashing clients. Not cool.
All that said, a smarter move for Nintendo would've been to take advantage of her contractor status and just not give her any more work.
...then I made the mistake of actually reading it...
This isn't even a one time thing. Several companies, including Grocery Stores, Airline companies, and others have also reprminaded and fired employees for things they did not find satisfactory to the "image" of the company on their personal blogs (In all cases, no real names of persons or comapnies were used).
What the people saying that Nintendo is in the right in doing this, is that companies have the right to mandate any behavior of their employees outside of the work environment. If I'm at a bar with my buddies joking about our boss in an unkind manner, and someone else high up is at the company two tables down and hears us, now I show up monday without a job because I said something nasty about my boss in a public restauraunt.
And as I've said, this wasn't a newspaper or a radio show, this was a blog on the internet. If anyone who ever said anything mean about another person/employer/company were to be reprimanded by say... death? (For the sake of the following example mind you), we would surely be out of whatever population issues this planet has right quick.
Granted, her comments were disrespectful, but as long as she didn't break any NDC's, and she still does her job correctly, I don't see what business it is of Nintendo or any employer to reprimand personal feelings being vocalized...
No wonder we have so many therapists making bank in this country...
Is this personal to you? You seem fairly pissed off today.
NOTE: I'm on the ball today, don't ruin it now.
Not so much personal as it is insipid. She's a spoiled rich bitch on par with people like Paris Hilton, and yet everyone acts like she's the victim.
Why does she have to be one or the other? Just because you think she's spoiled, doesn't mean she wasn't wrongfully terminated.
Would you honestly care if she was wrongfully terminated? Considering she is a complete bitch to the people paying her?
@Whoever the hell said she was "kinda cute"
I've seen dogs that look better.
But as far as this story tells us, this wasn't the case, unless she blogged from work.
Her public comments, made with no real names attached, should (in my opinion) be protected speech under the First Amendment. Just because someone works for you or with you, does that make you immune to criticism, no matter what your attitude or behavior? What if you worked for her? How would you feel if you couldn't say anything at all to them or about them, not even to your friends or in a bar over drinks without being reprimanded or fired from your job?
Sometimes management gets too big for its own britches. Someone I know once got screwed out of a day's work because the management team over her couldn't make up their minds. They asked for one project, which she worked on all night, and the next day wanted the other, and told her she couldn't bill the hours she worked already. Recently, she was told her family life was getting in the way of her work and she needed to make some personal changes to correct this. This was despite the fact she was working at all hours, never, ever missed a deadline, and always delivered. She turned in her notice after that one, and was met with groveling and pleading when it was realized the golden goose had just been mortally wounded.
Since when does going to business school and being indoctrinated into management make you immune to making stupid decisions? It certainly doesn't absolve you from the negative discussion that occurs when every other human being on the planet makes a mistake.
If she's just acting like a douche, and she gets caught, fire her ass. It would be her fault for being a douche. I mean, it's not hard to not insult someone. Most people get through the day just fine without questioning the romantic life of everyone they work with.
And, if you feel you just HAVE to be a complete dick about the people you work with, don't leave ANY traces. If you get caught breaking your contract (and I guarantee Nintendo will have a clause in all their contracts about acting appropriately and not bringing the company into disrepute, even outside of work), then I have absolutely no sympathy for you.
Furthermore, I find it incredibly amusing that the chances of her ever working in the games industry again is practically nil:
"So, why did you leave Nintendo?"
"Oh, I got caught bad-mouthing my superiors on my blog."
"I see..."
"Oh, I'm sure I won't bad-mouth YOU guys."
"Yeah. Don't let the door hit you on the way out."
Don't knock unions too hard. I know they're not perfect, but without them I wouldn't be where I am today - guaranteed. The AFL-CIO is what made it possible for me to grow up in a middle-class home and go to college.
In general:
I just don't understand how we, as a people, continue to tolerate this ridiculousness. *When you are not on the clock, you are no longer at work!* Companies have no right to tell you what to do or say outside the workplace - unless there is a contract between the two parties that says otherwise.
Unless you can show where there's a clause in her contract that says she can't bitch about her job or co-workers while away from work, then yeah, I still say it was wrongful termination, and that she's well within her rights to post bitchy posts.
We don't know what her behavior was at work. We can though assume that since she wasn't terminated until the discovery of her blog, that she was professional at work, and competent at her job. Otherwise she'd have been outta there before. As for her blog, she did what was necessary to not identify her employer, that's all that should be important. If I wanted to put up flier with a fake name all over town saying my boss is a drunkard and a dick. That's my right. I'm not being a detriment to the company because it's just anonymous rantings. And if you're a prairie dog, like it appears she was, you're not in the public eye, so unless you specify the company, none of your readers will know. Again, she did what was necessary to insulate the company from being identified. Their termination of her was what revealed them to be the targets of her ranting.
Ok, what? What do their products have to do with any of this? My SNES is what you would call "antiquated" but it doesn't make the games for it any less fun, and that's what gaming is about, fun.
Kudos on for once not attacking religion though.
So she deserved it. She was irresponsible. You can bitch about co-workers and such all you want, but if you make the mistake of letting yourself be known, then you are the one to blame for the mistake.
Besides. She can find another damn job anyhow; she's not in Michigan.
As an employee for a company you are a spokesperson for that company. If you do not care for the people you are working with the simple solution is to get a different job. Name calling and Bitching about all the people you work with outside of your immediate group of friends is spreading a bad image of the company, which will effect other people future dealings with the company.
I hate people who have the idea that they can say anything they want "anonymously" on a blog with no repercussions. They get upset because people call them whores, because they talk about all the guys they sleep with. They get called an asshole because they talk